Thanks for taking the time to read the article; I definitely appreciate it!
That's something I've been thinking about a lot lately; Tina asked me the same thing. Becoming sexually active would really depend on my partner, the sort of commitment we have to each other - I'm willing to change my personal boundaries, but it really depends on much I trust the other person and their own expectations about sex and relationships. I've been mentally preparing myself lately for the possibility that I might not ever find a romantic partner who's willing to negotiate the fact that my sex drive is basically nonexistent. At this stage, I'd willingly consider having my romantic partner have sex with other people (taking the whole sex and love are totally different camp to the extreme) as long as they're still emotionally committed to me. I know there are a number of asexuals who consider themselves polyamorous and have more flexible romantic and sexual relationships with their partners.
Oh God, I sound like an unabashed romantic. I'm being vague because I'm honestly not sure how far I'd go. At the very least I can say that I don't expect the other person to deny his sexuality for the sake of mine; that's just unfair. I honestly doubt I'll ever meet an asexual man who'd be interested in me. Asexuals are 1% of the population, and there are more women than men. There's an even greater stigma against asexual men (unless they're APA, I guess) because there's this whole machismo attitude they're expected to have about sex; I'd like to think that there are more asexual men in the closet out there, but I doubt any of them are coming out anytime soon.
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Date: 2008-04-15 12:45 am (UTC)That's something I've been thinking about a lot lately; Tina asked me the same thing. Becoming sexually active would really depend on my partner, the sort of commitment we have to each other - I'm willing to change my personal boundaries, but it really depends on much I trust the other person and their own expectations about sex and relationships. I've been mentally preparing myself lately for the possibility that I might not ever find a romantic partner who's willing to negotiate the fact that my sex drive is basically nonexistent. At this stage, I'd willingly consider having my romantic partner have sex with other people (taking the whole sex and love are totally different camp to the extreme) as long as they're still emotionally committed to me. I know there are a number of asexuals who consider themselves polyamorous and have more flexible romantic and sexual relationships with their partners.
Oh God, I sound like an unabashed romantic. I'm being vague because I'm honestly not sure how far I'd go. At the very least I can say that I don't expect the other person to deny his sexuality for the sake of mine; that's just unfair. I honestly doubt I'll ever meet an asexual man who'd be interested in me. Asexuals are 1% of the population, and there are more women than men. There's an even greater stigma against asexual men (unless they're APA, I guess) because there's this whole machismo attitude they're expected to have about sex; I'd like to think that there are more asexual men in the closet out there, but I doubt any of them are coming out anytime soon.